Wednesday, 15 July 2015

Thankyou for the light...


I don’t think this is an everyday blog post, that people would want to read first hand but I felt like I had to write it.

Recently, I lost a friend of mine to an illness. Quite frankly, it sent me into shock. I still cannot believe it is real.

Death is an awful, awful stage in life, for the loved ones who have lost/loosing somebody. The emotions we feel, can range from sadness to anger. How do you cope after losing somebody? I for one have no idea. All’s I know that it fills you with guilt and regret. Guilty for the fact that you couldn’t heal/save the person. Regret that you didn’t send those ‘how are you doing’, ‘let’s hang out’ texts. The list goes on. We could feel all these horrible emotions for the rest of our lives however I have actually seen a different approach to loosing somebody, from my good friend Jackie.

In the car home from our friend’s funeral, I broke down. I got so upset thinking what if I lose one of my family members. I just do not know what I would do. Jackie made me realise that we should think of the funeral, as a celebration of the person’s life. She is totally right! We spent the car journey talking out memories of our friend and we ended up laughing at some of them.

The people we lose to death are not gone forever. They live on through their spirit, in our hearts.

If you have lost somebody recently or in the past, talk to somebody about them! It can take a lot of courage to talk, as most would rather bottle these emotions up, I know I did! Does it get easier? I asked my Mum if you ever get over loosing somebody. (My Mum lost both parents by the time she was 13 years old). She said you never get over somebody’s death, you learn to live with it.

I have decided to live my life to the full and not just exist anymore! Say yes to new adventures, tell those I care about I love them, and smile at a stranger! We all have our own issues/illness’/problems, but the littlest thing can easily change somebody’s day!


Rest in peace my dear friend

Frances Cassandra…
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  1. I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Hannah. Death is a horrible thing, and it makes people feel so guilty. We lost my Grandad last year, and it breaks my heart that my Nan sometimes feels guilty that she didn't notice sooner.

    I think your Mum is right, you just learn to live with it. I can't wrap my head around it - how can someone be here, and then not? My brain cannot handle that.

    I hope you're ok.

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  2. Jackie and your mum are both right, we never forget the person, we always live with a little sadness in our hearts for losing them, but in death we are reminded that life really is for the living and we can honour and remember those we have loved and lost by living the best possible life we can for us and them. It's a stark and shocking reminder and it hurts, but we move on, the world keeps spinning, we just have to spin a little faster and soak up as many good times, laughs, loves and adventures as we can.

    Sarah :)
    Saloca in Wonderland

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